When summer ended and fall came flying in like a bat out of hell, I had this weird sense of dread that I couldn’t place. At first I thought it was because my boyfriend would be heading back to college, and in a sense, leaving me. However, that September also marked the first academic year the youngest would be attending full days of school, versus half days like he had been previously.
Before the school year had started, the parents had assured me they weren’t going to discontinue my services. However, it wasn’t long after the kids were back to school, they changed their minds. Just like that, I was without a roof over my head, a mode of transportation, and a primary source of income.
I called my boss at Spencer’s and informed her of what happened and she offered me full time employment. One of my friends from Spencer’s; had arranged for me to move in with he and his family for the time being. So began my adventures of couch hopping. I stayed with Big Man for a bit. Then I moved in with one of the Assistant Managers for a bit. When that didn’t work out, I moved in with one of the other Assistant Managers.
I was living out of a suitcase, sleeping in a sleeping bag on the floor in someone else’s house, wondering if I would ever be able to save up enough money not only to go back to college, but also to find my own apartment. I was popping caffeine pills to stay awake during my shifts, popping sleeping pills to sleep at night because the depression, stress and anxiety was keeping me awake. I wasn’t eating because I was nauseous all the time; my hair was falling out from all the stress and anxiety. I was miserable. I felt alone. I felt like I wanted to die. My only solace was knowing that my boyfriend would be coming home for winter break.
While at work one day, I overheard one of my co-workers asking another co-worker to hook him up with some weed. It had been a while since I’d been high, and I figured that was just what I needed. So, I asked him if I could buy some from him. He agreed, but on the condition that I pick it up from him at his place. I didn’t have access to a vehicle anymore, so I convinced one of my friends to drive me to his place. When my friend realized that he had driven me to someone’s place to buy weed, he was livid. Not only because I had an illegal narcotic in my possession, but also because in the backseat of his car was the younger brother of a friend of his.
Now, what a lot of people don’t realize about Bipolar Disorder is that when a person is in the midst of their highs (mania), their judgment is completely fucked. I never took a moment to think, “Hey maybe it’s not a good idea to do this” because during the manic phase of Bipolar Disorder, it’s like the brain is having an orgy. You don’t think clearly, and I didn’t think about the consequences of having my friend drive me to my co-workers house to score some weed.
My friend told me I needed to tell my boyfriend what happened. I didn’t want to. The bulk of my friends, including my boyfriend, were anti-drug usage and I didn’t want to disappoint them. However, I didn’t want to lie to my boyfriend either. So I called him up and told him what I did. He was angry, as he had every right to be, and told me he needed some space.
At which point I freaked out. What nobody ever tells you about being mentally ill; is that you’re always afraid. Especially of being abandoned by those you love and care for. So when my boyfriend told me he needed some space, my brain translated that as meaning he’s going to abandon me. I called up my friend sobbing, the same one who had driven me to get some weed, and he and some other friends, drove me over to my boyfriend’s house.
In hindsight, going over to my boyfriend’s house was a mistake. I should have just given him space to calm down as he had requested. But I was in panic mode. He came out to talk to me, shit hit the roof, and that was that. He broke up with me.
You’re probably thinking, “This can’t be good.”
It wasn’t.
Now, before I continue, I need to explain that one of my friends in Rochester was this guy who was very good with butterfly knives. And when I say he was very good with butterfly knives, I mean he would take this butterfly knife out of his back pocket, and whip it around like a dance. When I started riding the bus to and from work, he encouraged me to buy a butterfly knife for my own protection. So I did, and I would keep it in my coffin shaped purse.
My heart had just been ripped out of my chest, shattered, and pissed on by the very guy who used to bring me bouquets of flowers at work. So, I took my butterfly knife out of purse and used it on my wrists. My friends, who had taken a walk to give my boyfriend and I privacy while we were talking, came back in time to stop me before I caused massive trauma.
I still don’t know why they took me to one of my friend’s house, instead of to the ER. I suppose they figured since I didn’t have medical insurance and wouldn’t be able to pay for a trip to the ER, it was the smarter move. Or perhaps they figured all I needed was a bit of TLC. Whatever their motive, my friend’s mom calmed me down enough for my friends to take me back to the place I was staying.
I couldn’t sleep that night. My mind kept replaying the events of that night, including the conversation I’d had with my friend’s mom. About how I needed to get help. I tried calling my brother, but his girlfriend couldn’t wake him up. I didn’t want to call my parents, especially since it was so late at night, but I called them anyway. I cried the entire time while talking to them.